This is a discussion of a woman, an ordinary woman who participates in the everyday and commonplace acts of life. As she re-views (reminiscences) about her present, past, and future. This collaboration of, and interdependence between the visual and the verbal, forms an autoethnography of a woman’s life and explores a still developing, still evolving selfhood.
Featured Post
Michael Overman (my son) won a TEA award for his work on Priddy Family Foundation Theater at National WWII Museum in New Orleans
Themed Entertainment Award for Priddy Family Foundation Theater way to go Mike --all those art classes paid off love mamma
Thursday, August 24, 2023
Linda Overman interview on KLAA Radio 830am on your dial about her podcast THE LAST THING I WISHED I SAID -have a listen
Monday, June 5, 2023
Linda Rader Overman interviews Tiffany Bailey: parenting does not come with a rule book
Thursday, June 1, 2023
Linda Rader Overman interviews Professor Janice Robinson misses her Mama Tish
Saturday, May 27, 2023
Linda Rader Overman interviews Professor Colette Claire prevented from attending her grandmother's funeral
Tuesday, May 16, 2023
Linda Rader Overman THE LAST THING I WISHED I SAID-Elyce Wakerman discovering her father
Thursday, April 27, 2023
Linda Rader Overman THE LAST THING I WISHED I SAID-Professor Jessica Stewart sees light even in the dark
Sunday, April 16, 2023
THE LAST THING I WISHED I SAID -Linda Rader Overman podcast-Conversation with Kathy Bird-OMG She's My Sister
Sunday, April 2, 2023
THE LAST THING I WISHED I SAID-Linda Overman interviews Susan Ware Actress, Writer, Painter
Thursday, March 30, 2023
Linda Rader Overman is leading a creative writing workshop at Thousand Oaks Library
April 1, 2023 Saturday at 3PM --Appearing at Thousand Oaks Library and will be leading a creative workshop for beginning and aspiring writers. Teens 16+ are welcome to join.
Do join us!!
Tuesday, March 7, 2023
Linda Rader Overman shares The Last Thing I Wished I Said-Linda Overman's new podcast is coming have a quick listen!
My Podcast is coming have a listen to the trailer
IG @ LindaOverman
Twitter @ThingWished
Mastodon @ThingIWished@mastodon.social
Tuesday, May 3, 2022
A Doctor's "11-Year-Old Patient Was Pregnant. Here's What I Want You To Know About Being 'Pro-Life.'"
My 11-Year-Old Patient Was Pregnant. Here's What I Want You To Know About Being 'Pro-Life.'
"Our
medical assistant came to me, panicked, and handed me a positive test.
... 'Run it again,' I sputtered — to buy some time and gather my wits
and hope by some miracle it would produce a different result."
Read in HuffPost: https://apple.news/AUklB3OB9T_ad2wY0PxI7Rw
or below:
One morning this past December, I woke up early to listen to judges with lifetime appointments question lawyers in a process that may ultimately rob people of their reproductive freedom. And week after week since then, I continue to hear judges and lawyers and politicians speak on issues they have no business speaking on ― as far away from people and their real lives as voices from another planet.
During these moments, I think of a little girl in an exam room I met many years ago.
She was my patient. She was 11.
We will call her Sophia.
She was quiet and soft-spoken — a par-for-the-course, awkward adolescent who was uncomfortable interacting with an adult. She answered my questions with one-word responses and didn’t quite know where to look.
When I left the room, I heard the booming voice in my head of an ER doctor who had trained me: “Don’t be the ass who doesn’t order the pregnancy test.” This was one of her clinical teaching pearls: Many young docs will order the blood tests, the ultrasound, the CT scans, but skip the most obvious, most basic test and spend tens of thousands of dollars to work up a patient when the “diagnosis” is actually pregnancy.
Hence, don’t be the ass who doesn’t order the pregnancy test. So I ordered it.
A few minutes later, our medical assistant came to me, panicked, and handed me a positive test. “Run it again,” I asked her, agape. She ran it again. Positive. “Run it again,” I sputtered — to buy some time and gather my wits and hope by some miracle it would produce a different result. Positive.
She was my patient. She was 11. She was pregnant.
I sat Sophia’s mom down in another room and quietly explained to her that the pregnancy test came back positive.
She didn’t understand.
I had to repeat myself multiple times in various ways for her to comprehend that Sophia was pregnant. Shock, tears, a cellphone call. Soon a breathless dad showed up, followed by a somber family priest, and then the cops. I remember the adults weeping in a prayer circle in a separate room and the feeling of watching a nightmare unfold, and I had to remind myself that, sometimes, the job is bearing witness to the worst day of someone’s life.
I tried in vain to coax the truth of what happened out of Sophia, sitting next to her with a large anatomy atlas flipped open in my lap. She said nothing. I was thankful there was a female police officer that was among the throng at the clinic. It was this officer, when permitted to speak with Sophia, who discovered the identity of the family member that did this awful, unspeakable thing to her. And when the cops left to arrest that relative, they headed to church, because the perpetrator was at choir practice.
I recall my focus ― my clear understanding that my only job was to ensure that I was there to protect my patient. That whatever happened, my job was to make sure that at every moment, Sophia was centered, and her mental and physical health were the priority. To make sure that she could find her way, in the midst of this trauma and unspeakable crime, and that her precious life was protected.
And part of that included a pregnancy termination. We would make certain she had access to it and was able to get it immediately.
There was no question that Sophia’s life mattered and it mattering meant that she would not be forced to give birth at age 11.
And she wasn’t.
I think about Sophia all the time, especially these days. I think about all the Sophias in clinics like mine, as abortion protections are struck down in state after state ― protections falling like wicked dominoes. I think about the words “except in cases of the life of the mother.” The choice made that evening of the awful revelation was for the life of the mother. A mother that should have never been and thankfully wasn’t.
And though it might be easier to build consensus around abortion access for an 11-year-old raped by a family member, the truth is that nobody, anywhere, under any circumstance or in any situation should be forced to give birth. Forced birth should never be a reality.
Sophia is in her 20s now. I wonder how she has healed, how she has processed that trauma. Did she get to go to college? Has she been able to trust an intimate partner? Has she been pregnant on her own terms at the time of her choosing? Does she have a child? I can see her wide face and her soft smile in my mind’s eye and I know now, just as I knew then, that the decision to terminate Sophia’s pregnancy, supported by the ones who loved her the most, was a pro-life decision.
One of the things my mind conjures up from that horrible day is the feeling that the clinic was crowded. There was Sophia, her mom, then her dad and the priest, and later the cops. There was the crying and the praying and the disbelieving and the believing. I remember how small Sophia looked. Her small face and her small hands and her small hips and how this big, awful thing could happen to someone so small took the wind out of the place.
I remember how tiny that clinic room felt. There was no room for politicians signing evil bills flanked by child props as old as Sophia, no room for Supreme Court justices who claim to value life while wondering aloud how pregnancy can be an undue burden. No room for those extraneous, unnecessary, useless others in that most intimate of spaces. Our clinic rooms will always be too small for anybody but providers and our patients.
And we will fight for this sacred space, fight for it to be free of cynical politicians and their divisive games. They have never been invited in and we are not about to sit back or stand by while they force their way in.
Note: Names and specific details have been changed to protect the privacy and safety of individuals mentioned in this essay.
Dipti S. Barot is a primary care doctor and freelance writer in the San Francisco Bay Area. You can follow her on Twitter at @diptisbarot.
Thursday, June 17, 2021
Losing a dear friend is never easy even a year later CSUN Professor Kitty Nard's death leaves a gap in the English Department a mile wide
In honor of her four daughters, Jennifer, Jessica, Sarah, and Katie who showed such amazing brilliance and strength in eulogizing their mother. I include their memorialization of Kitty below whose celebration of life I was honored to host on June 12, 2021.
"Kitty Marie Pine Nard, age 65, of Glendale, CA passed away peacefully at 5:44 a.m. on May 27, 2020, the exact time of the L.A sunrise. She went to the hospital, was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and a few days later she died.
We created this memorial page to celebrate her life. Our mom was our hero. She taught us how to work hard, love without conditions, think for ourselves, and help those less fortunate. She gently guided us through life and provided us with the lessons we need to survive without her and know that we will be okay. Mom would NEVER just come out and tell us the answers. She fully believed in “teaching a person to fish.” And boy can we fish.
Throughout her life she took care of others. Effortlessly, Mom’s calmness and acceptance invited others to open up to her. But it was her compassion, thoughtfulness and ability to listen, hear, and support (without judgment) that impacted so many and made so many long lasting friendships.
She will stay alive through her 4 daughters, son-in-laws, sister, brother, 5 grandchildren, framily, friends, colleagues, students, and anyone who met her.
She often said us 4 girls were her greatest accomplishment, but “she was the wind beneath our wings.”
Kitty Nard strongly believed that education could open doors and change lives. She experienced this herself when she returned to school as a single mother of four. In 1994, she joined the CSUN community as a transfer student and found herself a home. She began teaching in the English Department in 1998 while continuing to pursue her own education. She would go on to earn a Master of Arts in Creative Writing in 2000 and a Master of Fine Arts in 2004. Her perseverance and passion for education inspired many. Over the twenty-two years Kitty taught at CSUN, she shared her passion and encouraged her students to follow theirs, reminding them along the way that “If she could do it, they can too.” Kitty’s family has created this scholarship to continue her legacy and dedication to inspiring and helping others.
Ways to contribute:
1. By credit card
Write in amount under Additional
Information, Other Special Instructions, YOU MUST write in: "Kitty Nard
Memorial Scholarship Fund."
2.By check
Please make the check out to CSUN Foundation
In the memo line, write "Kitty Nard Memorial Scholarship Fund."
Mailing address is:
California State University, Northridge Foundation,
18111 Nordhoff Street,
University Hall 110,
Northridge, CA 91330-8296
3. By Stock/Securities
https://www.csun.edu/sites/default/files/Gifts_by_Securities_or_Wire_Transfer_9_19_16.pdf
Our Mom will be missed greatly.
"There is no end to grief and that is how we know there is no end to love."
Wednesday, January 27, 2021
Linda Rader Overman appreciates her latest interview in CSUN Today Jan 27, 2021
CSUN TODAY with Carmen Ramos Chandler
Time Will Tell How Future Writers See Trump’s Tenure as President
Three CSUN professors, two novelists and a screenwriter, ponder how future novelists and screenwriters will tell the story of Donald Trump’s time as president of the United States.
As the distance grows from the end of Donald Trump’s tenure as president of the United States, novelists and screenwriters will grapple with how to tell the story of that period of time in America.
It was a marked by civil unrest and growing racial strife; a pandemic that killed more than 400,000 Americans in less than a year; record unemployment; an attempt by insurgents to storm the Capitol building to stop the certification of the election of a new president; Russians hacking into key governmental agencies; and two impeachments. . . .https://csunshinetoday.csun.edu/arts-and-culture/time-will-tell-how-future-writers-see-trumps-tenure-as-president/
Sunday, July 9, 2017
Part One: What do you do when the daughter you cherish follows an unimagineable path?
Now what?
I stare at her five year old picture, taken over three decades ago. She wears a lace white broad brimmed hat--mine.
Jewelry, collected from her grandmother and my drawers, hangs 'round her little neck against the blue flowered pattern and white linen bib of a favorite party dress. One hand rests in the other showing the array of colored plastic bracelets, more than ten, on her right arm.
Her long brown hair frames a chubby cheeked child who we adore. Her green eyes look camera right. The future awaits.
The future her father and I hoped for, however, is not the future she chose.
Fashion, in all shades, shapes and sizes, she loved. The clothes, the designers, the fabrics, the shoes, the clients, that world engulfed her. And she drank it in every step of the way.
Working at a nearby mall, she started out as a greeter in a small boutique until her sales abilities took her up the ladder while attending a private catholic high school. Later, she attended FIDM and worked hard graduating Cum Laude.
Working in one high end boutique after another until she started her own clothing line drove her creative passion.
Choices in men created diversions some for the better, some for the worse, mostly the worse. Yet, she survived never losing her love of selling, styling and making clients happy.
A layoff changed her direction, at first. The need to survive enabled her own line creation, but that road became fraught with stumbles: one season she had buyers and the next season she had none.
More work in more small high end boutiques continued. She always outgrew them and ended up in a more corporate controlled boutique with hopes of moving up within that structure. She did and she didn't.
Throughout this journey, drugs became an easy go to. Following college, she stomped through her twenties and her behavior fueled by Marijuana, Ecstasy, Cocaine, changed her. We never knew who or what to expect at family gatherings. She still managed to keep her job and keep her sales figures high, high, high.
We stopped communicating with her as her drug dependency fashioned a stranger we no longer recognized.
A year later her father was diagnosed with a cancer no one knew much about and there was no treatment, no cure.
We called her back to our home since we weren't sure how long my husband had left.
That was a mistake. . . .
and to write any more at this time is just too too painful.
Friday, May 27, 2016
Dr. Henry Oster: I Survived The Holocaust: “I quickly realized I would never see my mom again.”
He hears echoes of Nazi Germany in Donald Trump's rhetoric!
Saturday, April 2, 2016
Henry Oster & Dexter Ford many thanks from Linda Rader Overman & CSUN for The Kindness of the Hangman

Once again, it is with enormous gratitude that on Thursday, March 3, 2016 at California State University, Northridge, Dr. Henry Oster & co-author Dexter Ford, of The Kindness of the Hangman gave an extraordinary talk about the crafting of Oster's memoir. Thank you is simply not enough to show my utmost appreciation to these two amazing men for the gift they paid CSUN and my students for sharing the challenging journey they traversed in bringing Dr. Oster's story of survival to light.
My literature class was extremely honored to hear Dr. Oster and Dexter Ford discuss the process by which they created this amazing testament to survival, hope and courage. As one student notes:
Seeing Dr. Oster in person was such an incredible and humbling experience. When he was telling his tale it was like reading the book we knew everything he was telling us, but hearing it first hand from him made me realize and understand the importance of so many of the scenes especially [Kristallnacht] the "Night of the [Broken Glass]." It was so moving and powerful what he said and it was ironic that he became an optometrist to help people see clearly. I really appreciated when he said “if you have the guts to listen I’ve got the guts to talk.” When he was talking about how they never imagined things could get worse and after each setback and terrible obstacle there was another and another to the point when he was finally liberated he thought something was still going to go wrong and they would die. To live in that situation and hope and rumors to get you by seems so excruciatingly painful that Oster’s current outlook on life is inspiring in that he has this humorous and gracious attitude.---Nicole Lutes
The Kindness of the Hangman details Oster's witnessing of the decimation and murder of his fellow Jews from Cologne, Germany by the Nazis as well as the destruction of his own family. Oster "hid his mother from the SS in an attic in the Lodz, Poland Ghetto. He escaped a firing squad in Auschwitz. Endured a death march through the Polish winter. Formed a life-long friendship in the nightmare barracks of the Buchenwald concentration camp." At sixteen, Oster was liberated by General Patton's Third Army.
My Writing About Literature students were tasked with writing a comparative essay about
The Kindness of the Hangman and Maus II: A Survivor's Tale And Here My Troubles Began. The idea was to let them critically assess and analyze the differences between a primary source and a secondary source each a retelling of a similar horror and time in history, which continues to defy comprehension. And sadly, as Henry Oster noted, such horrors and inhumanity have not ceased in the past and more recent continuing global conflicts of today. As another student of mine notes:
As an Armenian-American, it’s especially difficult to live in a country that refuses to acknowledge the genocide of 1.5 million of your people. America deliberately refusing to accept our history, is essentially asking us to also deny it as a fact, and to forget what happened 100 years ago. What happened to the Armenian people 100 years ago was the first genocide of the 20th century. What Hitler did to the Jews during WWII was evidence of history repeating itself, of what the Ottoman Empire did to the Armenians in 1915. ---Aleen Arslanian

Below are some of my other students' essays in response to these chilling tales of heroism, suffering, and hope:
Out of Darkness by Rebecca Starkman
Of Maus and Man by Jake R. Rarick
The Burden of Survival: A Comparative Thematic Analysis of Maus vol. II (1991) and The Kindness of the Hangman (2014)by Antonio Manriquez
The graphic memoir Maus vol. II: And Here My Troubles Began (1991) by Art Spiegelman and the memoir The Kindness of the Hangman (2014) by Henry Oster and Dexter Ford share in common the accounts of male survivors of the Holocaust, along with the weight, burden, and obligations of its storytellers to accurately represent experiences that only a small percentage of those who suffered as victims survived. Both stories share specific detailed depictions of the brutality of the protagonists’ capturers, the relentless struggle for their survival, and their resolute ability to retain a sense of hope. Both texts are transparent about the source of the stories coming from survivors who have delivered their stories decades after the incidents have taken place. The reasons for and importance of these stories to be told are left either unspoken, subtly mentioned, or left to be deduced only by the fact that they exist.Spiegelman, in his graphic self-characterization, is asked by a reporter about what message he intended his audience to receive from the first volume. He answers, “a message? I dunno…” (Spiegelman 202.2A). Oster and Ford do not reveal any conflict of guilt with Dr. Oster’s survival or the purpose of the retelling of the story. Aside from the fact, learned from external sources, that he donates a great deal of time telling his story at the Museum of Tolerance in Los Angeles, California, a thematic element is made obvious through the use of historical context and comparative recent events. Dr. Oster and Mr. Ford have created their text to inform and educate readers of the catalyst of the human atrocities so that a continued effort to make the world more peaceful has another resource to support it. Their interest is not solely with the survival of the Jewish people, but with the tolerance and survival of all people, as argued in the statement,
_________________________________________
by Dan Sellery
By the time Henry arrives at Auschwitz, he’d been under Nazi control for years and had mastered many of the smaller details, such as what he calls “the calculous of soup” (51). Henry gives an almost identical account to Vladek’s, but from the Lodz ghetto years earlier. He illustrates that, “you didn’t want to be at the front of the line, because all the good parts of the soup would settle to the bottom, and all you would get would be liquid. And you didn’t want to be at the end of the line, because there was no guarantee that if this can ran out, there would be another” (Oster and Ford 52). Of the many parallels in each text, this is the most similar. Above all, their accounts of the soup demonstrate the savviness of both survivors. They employ tremendous sensibilities for observation and strategy. The agony of slow starvation is incomprehensible for those of us that have never experienced it, but the necessity of every extra calorie is apparent through the fact that both men made it out of Auschwitz alive.
Another resource both Vladek and Henry use to their advantage is their knowledge of languages. Their simple ability to communicate with the right people at the right times saves them from certain extermination. Vladek, the older of the two, had developed a very astute business acumen as well. Combining those two skills, he manages to improve his overall conditions at Auschwitz on several occasions. The Polish capo of his bunk happened to want to learn English, and he is one of the few prisoners that speaks Polish and English. Seizing this chance to improve his situation proves extremely fruitful. Vladek describes these conditions noting that, “I had it still happy there. For me it was not yet the end. Newcomers were afraid from me. I looked like a big shot and the capo kept me close” (Spiegelman, 35.3). He was better fed and better dressed than the rest of the Jewish prisoners. Utilizing his knowledge of the English and Polish languages not only preserves his life, but improves it.
Likewise, Henry is in Birkenau wasting his days away with a looming death seeming inevitable. Yet, Henry evades the inevitable by uncharacteristically volunteering during a selection by yelling out that he speaks German. Though being a German-speaking Jew made Henry few friends among the Nazis or the Polish Jews, his ability to communicate with his evil captors curries enough favor with them to save him from Birkenau. After being selected to work in the stables at Auschwitz I, Henry describes that, “after all these days and nights sleeping with my fellow prisoners like rats, the warm smell of hay and horse urine and manure actually felt reassuring. It smelled rich. It smelled more like life than death” (82). Hay and horse droppings equate to life. As dire as that sounds, it means survival for Henry. At the very least, it’s an improvement upon the overpowering stench of burning bodies throughout the rest of the camp. For Henry, speaking German may very well have been the difference between life and death.
There’s no shortage of adjectives to describe Vladek and Henry’s survival of Auschwitz—miraculous, remarkable, incredible, unconscionable, unfathomable—the list goes on. As great a role as resourcefulness plays, much of their survival hinged on luck alone. Surrounded by indiscriminate killing, no amount of desperation or hard work can preserve life on its own. Henry notes of the Nazis on several occasions that “they will shoot first and ask questions later” (Oster and Ford 89). This is the most difficult part of either story for me to reconcile. In no way do I wish to diminish the accomplishment of survival that either man achieved. Their strength is something unquantifiable that I can never dream of, and hopefully never have to. That said, neither man makes it out of Auschwitz without ample luck on their side. Sometimes it was in conjunction with their abilities, and other times it was as simple as the SS pointing a stick to the left or the right.
The unquantifiable nature of luck and resourcefulness is the most difficult part of drawing conclusions from these two stories. Being lucky but not resourceful results in death. Being resourceful but not lucky results in death. Dealing with genocide on such a large scale leaves little room for anything beyond acknowledgment and heartbreak. Though I can point to Vladek and Henry as success stories—proof that the Nazi ideology lost—I struggle to cope with the utter devastation that surrounded them. Thanks to their good fortune and incredible resourcefulness, we have the good fortune of being able to know their stories and share them in the hope that what they endured never happens again. The sad truth, however, is that it has happened again. It’s happening right now and will continue to happen until we find a way to limit suffering and end hatred.